I like to think people strive to be happy, to look for the good in every situation, be the best person possible and to live a life he/she is happy to live. These are, in part, my goals. Surprisingly to me, I’ve come across many people who can’t justify being happy too much. When I’ve asked why the most common response is ‘that is not reality.’ Does this answer resonate with you? Or are you more like me?
What is reality? Is it what you make of it? Is it what you pay attention to? Is it what’s on the current newsfeed? Is it what your neighbor thinks it is? Is it what the majority of people are focused on? The answer is a personal one.
I suggest that your reality is what you focus on and what you believe. I will never really know your reality, even if you tell me in depth because I can only experience it through being me. No matter how hard I try to see things your way I will always see them as myself with my experiences and my belief about the world, through my own eyes. The constant variable is the individual and how they interpret the world to be (beliefs). The big question is, do you want to change your reality?
I’m reminded how people can be inundated every day with so much negativity. It seems more so these days because people can plug in 24/7 from most anywhere in the world. Social media covers the news and you can even follow Royalty and have a peak at their lives. You not only have the opportunity to tune in (and it’s hard not to) and you can seek out the information you want at any time day or night. All of that can be a major distraction to the way one would like to feel about themselves and life in general. What to do about it then?
We all know we can choose to focus on another subject but can we change our beliefs? Of course! You need to have a few things in place first though.
- A reason
- Willingness to be wrong
Do you have a real desire, not just a passing interest in having a change? Why do you want it? Both your desire and your reason have to be strong enough to overcome your previous training that keeps you in the same place over and over again. Lastly, you have to be willing to be completely wrong because if you aren’t you will be back at square one every time the question comes up.
Do you remember the question, do you want to be right or do you want to be happy? Well? What do you want and what are you willing to give up for it? Are you there yet? If not, what do you think is holding you back? Comment below or schedule a discovery session with me via Lucinda@lucindasmith.com