The fact of the matter is that there are amazingly high numbers of people that spend their days telling themselves how broke, unhappy, sick and just miserable they are every day. Is that helpful? My experience shows it is that exact consistent reminder that is a prime causes of those individuals staying in that state.
Most people will agree that it isn’t in beneficial and yet at one point or another we’ve done it and probably still are to some degree. You may no longer be aware of the self-talk because it’s so ingrained. We cut ourselves off at the knees without even realizing it. That takes a lot of the joy out of life.
How often do you immediately dismiss opportunities to experience happiness? When is the last time you looked at something you believe is out of your reach and allowed yourself to imagine being there, having it or living it? More often than not, the immediate response is I can’t afford it, my partner would never go for it and a myriad of I can’t because fill in the blank reasons.
Here’s an interesting fact, your brain doesn’t distinguish between imaginary and physical reality. You can improve your performance simply by practicing it in your imagination. An experiment involving practicing playing piano mentally or physically showed the same results on their brain scans and compared to the control group which had no out of the ordinary activity noted on their brain scans.
In the movie SIGNS by M. Night Shyamalan there is a scene in which the Mel Gibson character’s son is having an asthma attack. He coaches him on breathing., telling him, “Here it comes. It’s coming on this next breath. It’s here, breath with me. We’re breathing together. Here it comes again.” They breath together in unison, the son visibly relaxed.
You might be thinking to yourself that this was a movie and although it was this is quite similar to what I did when I was having a severe allergic reaction to a bee sting. I’m certain that had I not talked myself through the event as I had I wouldn’t be alive today. That’s a story for another day though.
Wouldn’t life be much more enjoyable if instead of saying no to yourself, you allowed yourself the experience, even if only for a moment? Go visit open houses. Test drive new cars. Write about your desires. Allow yourself to experience the joys of living. Let your imagination show you just how wonderful it could be.
After all, you are using your imagination every time you think of everything that could go wrong. How about using that same imagination to open you to new experiences and new joys. The really exciting unexpected side effect from practicing these experiences is that opportunity seems to start showing up as a result. What could be better than that? I’ve seen it personally time after time as well as for my clients over and over again!
If you’d like to know a little more about how can you can change your daily experiences and circumstances I invite you to join me for my Revealing Your Superhero webinar this Wednesday. Here’s the link.
I want to leave you with a few crucial points. Life is supposed to be fun. You are in charge of you. Make the most out of what you have and enjoy every second of it while you can. In the words of Aerosmith, dream on.
I’d love to hear about your experiences. If you have any questions or comments please share them below or via email Lucinda@lucindasmith.com